Chris Cooper

Episode (60) – How to overcome procrastination and become successful

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Chris Cooper is a lifestyle and procrastination expert. He has worked with and consulted over 55 Fortune 500 Companies, saving them millions of dollars in the process. Chris has also walked on fire, run with the bulls and is a proud father of two sons.

 

On today’s show,

 

Chris talks about what causes procrastination and how to overcome it.

 

Chris also covers,

 

  • How he helps people move past limiting beliefs that are holding them back and live life out loud
  • The truth behind what causes procrastination
  • Procrastination is sneaky, it robs you of momentum, and it causes you to miss out on different opportunities and options
  • Six steps to beat the procrastination ‘disease’:
  1. Taking one small step at a time
  2. Making plans
  3. Following through
  4. Telling somebody
  5. Having a due date, not a deadline
  6. Keeping your goal inside

 

  • Procrastination is a disease and action is the cure
  • What you see you will ultimately become if you hold it in front of you, if you keep reminding yourself who you are and what you are about
  • His Life Changing Questions: Why not me? and Who do I need to become to attract what I really want in my life?
  • Two of the biggest fears most of us have: we are not good enough, and we are not going to be loved
  • It’s not about resources; it’s about being resourceful
  • ‘Success leaves clues’
  • The importance of looking at what successful individuals do
  • Why does he take time every morning to pray, meditate or both
  • How he practices gratitude all the time
  • Why you should always repeat yourself: I am capable, I am able, I am worthy
  • The things on his bucket list are: being a Mr. Incredible for his kids and having his TV show

 

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If just one question could immediately transform the quality of your life or the results of your business, would you want to know what that question was?  Life and business strategist, Kevin Bees, interviews success masters to discover their life-changing questions.  Welcome to the Life-Changing Questions podcast.

 

So welcome to Episode No. 60 of the Life-Changing Questions podcast.  On today’s show, we have a lifestyle and procrastination expert.  His name is Chris Cooper.  Chris has worked with and consulted for over 55 Fortune 500 Companies, saving them millions of dollars in the process.  He has been seen on ABC, CBS, MBC, FOX and now on the life-changing questions podcast.  In his spare time, he has collected three academic degrees.  He has become two times the No. 1 bestselling author.  He has walked on fire, run with the bulls and is a proud father of two sons.  So I am excited to welcome to the show today, Chris.  Chris, welcome to the show.

 

CHRIS:

Hey, Kevin, I am .. How are you? Ha, ha..

 

KEVIN:

Fantastic, my friend.  How are you?

 

CHRIS:

I am most excellent and super fantastic!  Ha, ha..

 

KEVIN:

Most excellent and super fantastic and I’d be very excited to speaking with you.  Chris, I have had the privilege of knowing you for close to half a decade now.

 

CHRIS:

Right, right!

 

KEVIN:

We got to walk on the fire together in Chicago in [0:01:12] so I am excited to bring you to the listeners today.  And I would love for you to give us a little bit of your background.  Tell us how have you come to be this person of influence and work with so many Fortune 500 Companies and make such a difference in the lives of other people with what you do?

 

CHRIS:

Well, the story is very interesting, I think.  I am originally from Philadelphia, Pennsylvania and I had the awesome, my mother was very young when she had me.  She was only 16.  So my family was very adamant about the fact that I would grow up, I will become a statistic and I wouldn’t do much, but my mother said literally when she was carrying me that God’s ordered that I would grow up and do exactly what I am doing now, which is speaking life into the lives of individuals all across the world.  I was really good in math and science, so math and science kind of became my way out.  I was very fortunate to get a full scholarship to University and I studied math and industrial engineering and then I went to get my masters and my MBA.  And I worked in Corporate America and I was very fortunate to become a pretty young, actually the youngest singer manager/junior executive with a [0:02:13] telecommunications company, but like most individuals everything that glitters is not always gold, ha,ha.  And I was literally working 18-hour days, 6 days a week, all the time and I knew that there was more in me.  I knew I wanted to do more.  I knew I wanted to help more people and though I was gifted in the field of math and science and I was able to effectively problem solving, all that kind of stuff and they could put up me in front of individuals to sell pretty much anything, I really wanted to make a real difference  in people’s lives.  So it was with a lot of thought and a whole lot of prayer, ha, ha, that I stepped out of Corporate America back on May 20, 2005.  And by the grace of God, I haven’t had to look back since.  I really wanted to create a company, where I was able to help individuals, as I would say, execute their passion, identify exactly what it is they wanted to do and give them the tools, the techniques, the strategies, whatever it was to make their lives better, you know, so you are not just being, you are really living.  And that’s kind of [0:03:11] transpired.  I was very fortunate to understand the value of personal development.  So I threw myself into pretty much every seminar, every coaching program, everything you could imagine, but I was very fortunate to have a coach much like you, actually the same coach, in the Robbins organization, Mr. Michael Savage and as a result of working with him, we had an amazing time working together and he asked me would I be interested in becoming a coach, you know, with Robbins, with Tony Robbins, so the rest, I guess, they can say is history, you know, I had an amazing time learning and growing alongside you and other individuals, you know, while at Robbins and now I have kind of shifted in which I have been able to have a radio show now, called Limitless Radio, where I help individuals realize the sky is not the limit, it’s only the beginning.  I have done TV, I have done all these different types of things on my own live events etc. anything that I can do to help people move past limiting behaviors and beliefs that are holding them back and ultimately, you know, live life out loud in one purpose you know, it’s definitely been a journey.

 

KEVIN:

And a magical journey by the signs of it.  And that you mentioned in there that really helping people move beyond the limitations and I know with your two No.1 bestselling books, you have ‘Achieve Your Dreams’ and ‘Get Shit Done’, which is an action guide to success.  I would love to hear a little bit more about that because it’s something that I hear frequently in my coaching and mentoring of people, always that the problem or the challenge of procrastination that where people aren’t taking any action that they need to take to get shit done.  I wonder if you could tell us about that in your experience.

 

CHRIS:

Yeah, sure!

 

KEVIN:

What causes people to procrastinate and do you have any tips or advice to help us overcome procrastination today?

 

CHRIS:

Sure.  Well, I think procrastination, it’s funny.  I even procrastinated on writing the book about procrastination, right and that’s hilarious.

 

KEVIN:

Ha, ha, ha!

 

CHRIS:

Ha, ha, ha!  But it’s so funny because procrastination is very sneaky.  You know, many of us, especially individuals that may be “that may identify or have been called like achievers or over achievers” or whatever you wanna call it, you know, we have this whole kind of concept of ‘Oh, we work best under pressure’, right?  And the reality of the matter, [0:05:17] ourselves?  No, you don’t work best under pressure.  You wait to the last day a minute and because your standard was so high, you have to put out a quality product.  So that’s not working best under pressure.  That’s just basically understanding that you have to show up in a mighty way, but procrastination is caused by so many things.  One of the biggest things, of course, is fear, you know, what I have realized is fear can be so debilitating.  And a lot of individuals, every single year, think about a December 31st, at 11:59 people make all of these, ‘Next year I am gonna stop drinking, stop smoking, stop whatever’, you know, ha, and poof, they think that when the clock strikes 12 then magically everything is gonna be okay.  When statistics show that by Valentine’s day, which as you can count, you know, is not even worth 45 days into the year, they have already broken pretty much every single resolution that they created.  And the problem of resolution for me is that most of us don’t have sustainable habits in the first place in order to keep them so of course you are not gonna do it.  So I say [0:06:16] procrastination is definitely very tricky.  And number one, I always introduce myself as Hi, my name is Chris and I am a recovering professional procrastinator, ha, ha,’

 

KEVIN:

Ha, ha, ha!

 

CHRIS:

Because, I mean, that’s you know just like if you are any other addiction of the thing, that’s what it is.  And the thing about procrastination, like I said, is sneaky, you know, it robs you of momentum, it causes you to miss out on different activities and options and different opportunities everywhere and the crazy part about is that, we are so, I guess, accustomed to saying ‘Oh, I’ll just wait’ or you know, ‘It’ll happen tomorrow’ or ‘I’ve got time’ or you know, all of these little lies that we tell ourselves that we become so accustomed to it and a lot of the cause honestly are incalculable, so they are kind of like imaginary or hidden and we don’t realize it until “it’s too late”.  So one of the big things that I do when it comes to procrastination and help individuals really move past things that are holding them back and stopping them from moving forward is really simple and it’s just six simple things.  The first thing I have to help them remember is, number one, that getting over procrastination is a process like anything else.  So a little step is still a step.  Let’s just say that you wanna lose 400 pounds, right?  You have 400 pounds you wanna lose weight and you’re probably not gonna be a 100 pounds the next day, but if you start walking first then running then working on your exercise and your diet and all the other types of things then eventually you’ll get there.  So I think we have to understand it and admit to ourselves that one of the first key of procrastination is understanding that a little step is still a step.  The second thing I would say is this – you have got to make plans, but I think we have all heard old adage before that ‘When you fail to plan, you plan to fail’, but making plans is so critically important.  So like anything else in life, you have to identify exactly what it is that you want.  Understand why you want it and then actually make a plan to go after that.  Now, that sounds so easy and you know, Kevin is like, ‘Yeah, Chris, that sounds really a pie in the sky’, but the thing about a plan is that a lot of people have plans and they have plans and then they have plans and then they have more plans stacked on plans and those plans are on the shelf somewhere.  Ha, so we actually have to follow through, which is the third part of this to actually make things happen.  And this is probably where 99.99% of us fail.  You know, we try to follow through and we don’t and the fourth step will help in that is because you have got to tell somebody and I call this kind of your accountability piece.  It can be a coach, a peer, an accountability partner, whatever you wanna call the individual, you gotta tell somebody and tell somebody that’s better than you in that particular area.  You know, if you are trying to stop drinking, let’s not have a meeting at the bar, right?  It’s counterproductive, right?  Ha, ha.  But you’ve gotta tell somebody so that way you can ultimately move forward and then the fifth thing is, you’ve gotta have a due date.  Notice, I didn’t say deadline.  I personally believe that there is power in words and dead is the root of deadline and dead is so morbid that it just doesn’t bring life at all.  So I’ll say it due date because as you know, Kevin, any woman that’s ever had a baby has a due date and sometimes they miscalculate it and sometimes that has to be pushed up and sometimes it will be pushed back, but at the end of the day, guess what, ‘Oh, that baby is coming’, ha.  So you have to understand that you have got to have a due date and be flexible with yourself in that.  And the last piece of it is, you have got to keep whatever your goal is, inside.  Whether it’s a vision board, whether it’s on your phone, whether it’s on a written piece of paper I see in your pocket, whatever it is, you’ve got to ultimately see it.  So going through that process of understanding that a little step is still a step, understanding that you have to make plans, understanding that you have to follow through, understanding that you have to tell somebody, understanding that you have to have a due date, and to cap it all off, understanding that you have to keep your goal inside.  That’s how you are going to be able to effectively beat this procrastination disease, as I would say.  I always say procrastination is a disease and action is the actual cure.

 

KEVIN:

Procrastination is a disease and action is the cure.  And so the six steps, take one small step at a time.  So make sure you chunk it down into something that you can action on and I love what you said there, a little step is still a step.  Number two, make sure you have a clear plan, follow through, take the action that you committed to doing, have the discipline around that.  Number four, tell someone.  I think that’s so important, having an external accountability once you voice something out loud to other people, it actually makes you even more committed to follow through because then you wanna be a person of your word.  Number five, have a due date, not a deadline.  And number six, keep the goal inside, make sure you have it on the vision board, written on a card, and that reminds me of Jim Carrey.  See him.  He talks frequently about when he was still, you know, working as a janitor or something of that nature.  He wrote a cheque to himself..

 

CHRIS:

A cheque, yeah, ha, ha!

 

KEVIN:

And I think he was something in the region of 10 million dollars for movies made and then of course he looked at that cheque every single day and sure enough on the day that he put on the date, he had been hired to make the movie ‘Dumb and Dumber’ and of course made the money that he had written on the cheque.

 

CHRIS:

isn’t that incredible?  And it is so awesome that you say that.  One of the organizations is a part of [0:10:53] ‘The Hundred Black Men of America’ and our theme is about mentorship and helping young boys in particular and one of the biggest things is that the motto is that ‘What they see is what they’ll be.’  And I think that same motto just transcends across every industry, every race, every creed, everything you could imagine like you just said, like just what Jim Carrey like seeing it.  What you see you will ultimately become if you keep it in front of you, if you keep reminding yourself who you are and what you are about, whether it’s the incantations or whether it’s, you know, even just an affirmation and standing up in meditation in the morning and just telling yourself, who you are and what you are ultimately gonna be able to create, it will happen.  I mean, it’s the law of attraction is real guys.  It really is.

 

KEVIN:

I think that’s the super call.  So what you see is what you’ll be.  So get that vision, get that goal upon your wall, where you can see on a daily basis, get on your phone, where you are checking in on time and that what you see is what you’ll be.  Chris, the one I wanna pick up on is, you spoke about take one small step.  I think that’s the first one.  Getting started, right?  Being able to do.  Someone who hasn’t been on the podcast yet is a guy called Shawn Achor and he talks about this idea of activation energy.  He says that if something is too difficult to start, it’s gonna take may be longer than 20 seconds or takes too much thought, then we are unlikely to get going.  So the brain will just go ‘Eh, too hard.’  He said, but if you can make it really easy to start, really easy to get going, really easy to activate your energy to do it, he said then we’re way more likely to get things done.  He said because if we get, once we get started and we get going then we have that momentum then we can keep going and he gives this great example.  He said that he didn’t want to go to gym.  He would wake up in the morning and he would hit snooze, he’d hit snooze and he never goes to the gym.  He said he realized he had to make it super easy to get activated and get going, so he decided that he would sleep in his gym gear and have his footwear right next to the bed and any [0:12:43] towels and stuff packed in a bag, all ready to go, so when his alarm went off in the morning, all he had to do, you know, was very easy to activate.  He just had to swing his feet around, put his feet in the shoe and he said, before that 20 seconds, he was walking to the door.  So by the time he got to the front door, his brain messaged him, ‘Aren’t you trying                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                     to get back to bed?’ but by that point it already has momentum, so energy and he kept going in that, of course, he goes to gym way more frequently so make it easy to get started.  Chris says, take one small step like a little step is a step, but make it easy to get it activated is probably a great piece of advice that you can follow through on to avoid procrastination as well.

 

CHRIS:

Absolutely, absolutely.

 

 

 

KEVIN:

So Chris, one of the reasons we have the show is, we love to hear about the quality of the questions that we ask ourselves.  And we would love to hear from you, what’s one question that you have asked of yourself or of your clients that’s had the biggest possible impact on your life?

 

CHRIS:

Well, there are so many, but one that just popped into my head immediately is one that I say consistently and that’s basically ‘Why not me?’  Right?  Why not me?  And the reason that I say that is because growing up, as I said, my mother was a teenage mother, my biological father was not necessarily in my life, so I wrestled with this whole rejection, peace, right?  And what I decided to do was, you know, many individuals would take their rejection and make, like, negative decisions or do things that don’t necessarily help them.  My drug of choice happened to be achievement.  So I kept throwing myself into everything I possibly could, to try to get to let other pple tell me “that I am great, that I matter, that I am important, that I am loved” etc.  And the interesting thing about it is that, you know, even when you have that or you are trying to go after that affirmation in the form of praise from others, you know, that longing and that open hole is still actually there.  So one of the questions that I had to understand and as I grew and as you know, most of us have two of the world’s biggest fears, you know, one, that we are not enough and secondly, that we are not gonna be loved.  And so that question of ‘why not me’ it empowers me to understand that, hey, guess what, if these awesome and incredible things have happened for other individuals it can happen for me as well.  Even if it’s bad situation, you know, we are not above having [0:14:51] have happened to us either, right?  It’s all in the perspective, how you look at it.  So that whole ‘why not me’ question has really been a motivating force to allow me to create a lot, to allow me to reflect a lot and allow me to really empower not only myself, but as you also say, my clients.  And another question I would say which is huge, and this is the one that, I think this is my perpetual question, I think that I’ll ask into the end of days is ‘Who do I need to become to attract what I really want in my life?’, ‘Who do I need to become?’  So not to chase after stuff, not to, you know, it’s a run after this and a run after that opportunity and be like a squirrel and every shiny object comes jumping around, but who do I, who do I, as an individual, have to become to attract what I really want in my life?  And that’s actually, probably the biggest [0:15:40] where I coach.  So any of my clients will always know that that’s one of the questions that I ask them and I have them constantly digging deeper for it because whether it’s a relationship thing or finance thing or health and wellness thing or spirituality thing or whatever it is, that question of focusing on who do you need to become, like how can I be better, how can I serve more people, how can I make a greater impact, how can I ultimately, you know, do better because at the end of the day the only thing that we can control really is ourselves and our reaction to the things that happen in our lives.  So those are some of our favorite questions and I am big on questions, I love asking them all the time.  I mean, it’s so funny, I believe that my 11-year-old and my 7-year-old boys, they have definitely inherited that gene because I get ‘why’, I think probably about a million times a day, ha, ha [0:16:29] as well.

 

KEVIN:

It’s interesting.  Kids are masters of the question because they are so inquisitive to know, know more, know more.  So let’s a look more into this ‘why not me?’  So from your point of view then it’s really helped you overcome the fear of rejection and you make a valid point there, we all have this fear of not being enough or not being loved.  And I think it really blew my mind when I first understood this like we can think that it’s only us who feels that way and it causes a bit of insecurity, but we have senior executives, I even had the privilege of connecting with the admiral of the US Navy, even he had fears and doubts about not being enough in the next thing that he wanted to do.  So it gives me a big understanding then that when you ask that question Chris, ‘why not me’, it’s really giving you the opportunity to put yourself out there and take the chance knowing that the field is level, everyone else has the fears as well.  Everyone else fears they are not good enough and everyone else fears they are not gonna be loved.

 

CHRIS:

Absolutely.  And I think as you said it normalizes everything, right?  I think so many times individuals, we kind of indirectly place ourselves in buckets, right?  Well, you know, Kevin’s like this so yeah, of course that would happen for Kevin or you know, Jane’s like this and of course that would happen for her and Mary’s like this and you know, and we just begin to basically just put these things into these buckets and sometimes we put the buckets way out of our reach, right?  And we say that, oh, you know, I think about this all the time [0:17:49] close friends of mine, they have done some awesome and incredible things and one of them was actually on ‘Good Morning, America’ just this morning and it’s so funny and I have seen him grow and develop and have these awesome things.  I may have some of the same aspirations, but instead of getting upset or like, oh, why did it happen for them or you know, “they beat to the part” and it’s not about that.  It’s to say ‘Hey, if it happened for them, it can happen for me.’  Ha, and as a man of faith also, so like you know, if God’s done it before, he will do it again.  and I think just coming from that place and understanding that, you know, that yes, we all are worthy and that yes, we all have insecurities, we all have struggles, we are not alone and because of that ‘yes, why not us?’  ‘Why not allow us to be able to live the lives that we want?’  ‘Why not allow us to go through some of the pain because the pain may actually teach us a lesson?’ And I learned that, you know, from my divorce, which is understanding the importance of, yeah, I could say, ‘Oh, God, why is this happening to me’ or with us or my family or whatever, but when I look back at the end of the day and I know Tony Robbins taught us this as well that sometimes the tragedy is the gift, right?  It really is a gift and we learn so much, you know, through that process and we are able to authentically show up and see what we’re really made of in those darkest moments.  And I count, like I say, my marriage was a gift.  I mean, I learned so much.  I grew so much.  It challenged me on so many things.  I even I didn’t want to be challenged and we have two amazing incredible young men, who I’m instilling the same and she is as well instilling the same types of values in and had I not looked at that question, you know, even on the flip side of that, not the happy side, but even on the sad side of it, why not me, you know, I am human, I am like everyone else, why shouldn’t I go through a situation like that.  So this really opened my eyes so much.

 

KEVIN:

Fantastic.  If you are listening to the show right now, I would like you to take some time today to ask that question ‘why not me?’  If you have a goal and aspiration, something that you want to do, ask yourself ‘why not me?’  There’s an opportunity for you to take action and it sounds like Chris, that we are gonna be seeing you set a goal or put a goal up on the wall by being on ‘Good Morning, America’.

 

CHRIS:

Absolutely, ha, ha… absolutely, yup, it’s on the list.

 

KEVIN:

We look forward to that.  And I guess that leads us to ask you a question and who do you need to be in order to attract the opportunity to be on ‘Good Morning, America’?

 

CHRIS:

Ha, ha, absolutely.  Well, I can answer part of that right now.  I have to continue to grow, to develop and to check this out.  We learned this a long time ago as well.  It’s not about resources, it’s about being resourceful.  Being as though I know individuals that have been on the show, connecting with the right people, connecting at the dots, making sure that my message is the same thing, looking for opportunities where I can infuse whether this [0:20:26] procrastination, peace or this achieving, you know, dreams or it’s pushing past the next level even as I talked about, you know, even for the divorce’s whole idea of effective co-parenting, which I have been so blessed to be able to learn how to do, so when any of those types of opportunities when they open up, yes, that’s who I need to become.  I need to become a master of those types of things.  So when they think of who to call and who to bring on and they’ll dial my number and then I am gonna say, I am gonna give a big shout out to my friend way on the other side of the world, the amazing Kevin Bees for helping me bring this to fruition, ha,  ha!

 

KEVIN:

So are you here to hear first then we would certainly love to hear of your news at being on ‘Good Morning, America’.

 

CHRIS:

Ha, ha, awesome!

 

KEVIN:

And two fantastic questions and so in summary, ‘why not me?’ and get clear on ‘who do I need to become in order to attract what I want in my life?’ and you can make that specific about the specific area just as Chris did then with the ‘Good Morning, America’.  So Chris, we would also love to hear from you about your habits and your rituals.  We know that habits and rituals of our past have led us to where we are now.  And habits and rituals that we have today will lead us to our future.  So what are some of the things, the habits and rituals that you have that that have allowed you to have the success that you had so far in your life?

 

CHRIS:

Awesome, it’s such a great question.  As you said, everything comes down to habits and rituals.  Everything that we do habitually or ritualistically will have an effect, good, bad or indifferent.  One of my favorite quotes is that ‘success leaves clues’.  So what I do, one of my habits and rituals is number one, is looking at what successful  individuals do.  Looking at individuals that are doing what I “aspire to do or desire to do” in various areas of their lives and asking them the questions or if I can’t ask them the question, looking at what they are doing and patterning myself, you know, behind them.  Every morning I definitely take time to pray or meditate or both sometimes.  That’s one of the biggest things because I know I have to ultimately be centered.  In addition to running my professional services [0:22:13] I still actually own an Information Technology and Human Resources Consultancy so I get [0:22:18] big clients and stuff, to kinda help them with their overall program structure and you know, how to take their company and their teams and stuff to the next level.  So because of the fact that I am in all of those types of things, I am constantly looking for opportunities to number one, get centered, ha, ha, before I have to go into, what can be, very chaotic so that definitely that meditation peace and also prayer peace definitely makes some incredible things.  And the other thing that I do is, I practice gratitude all the time.  I try to take a moment at least once a day and sometimes I miss, I am human, like everybody, but I like to take just one moment, you know, throughout the day and just write down or say out loud the things that I am grateful for, jotting down in my gratitude journal.  That’s really big because, you know, as you realize it’s so easy to become sad or depressed or disappointed or what have you, but its biochemically impossible to be depressed or unhappy and be grateful at the same time.  Like they just, they cannot exist in the same space, so gratitude to me is like my weapon, it’s like my sword and when I am able to go to that place of gratitude, it allows me to really focus on what’s important, it allows me to go back to how things should ultimately be.  The other thing is this, I am really big and I am working on this.  I am still a work in progress, but definitely you know working on my physicality, you know working out, drinking water, you know, anything that’s gonna help my physiology, you know, anything that’s going to keep me alert, taking vitamins, you know, eating clean as much as possible, doing whatever I can to ensure that my energy level’s where it needs to be because I pour so much into so many individuals at such a high rate all the time, I have to ultimately refuel myself.  And then also, I guess, another habit and ritual that I like to spend is, ask my kids every single day when they come home from school or when I pick them up or whatever, I ask them, okay, I’ll say, we will play this little game we call ‘highs and lows’.  So I’ll say ‘what was the high point of your day and what was the low point of your day?’  And this gives us the opportunity to have conversation.  We’re not on our iPhones, we’re not on the computer, we are not playing video games, we are just having conversation and we are talking.  And I am learning about what they’re going through, what they are dealing with.  So that way they know that dad’s here and I

could be a resource and we can make some things happen, so kind of definitely touching in with the family time as I said, you know, I am having that moment of gratitude, I am doing the prayer, the meditation and then also I look at my goals every day.  Every day, every day, every day, every day, every day.  I look at, you know, the things that I ultimately wanna accomplish.  I can be someone that says do as I say not as I do, so just as I talked about the little steps to avoid procrastination, I keep those goals inside and I look at them and I tell myself that I am capable, that I am able, that I am worthy, that I can make these things come to pass, so those are some of my rituals and habits.

 

KEVIN:

I am capable, I am able, I am worthy.  What powerful beliefs to have in there.  So we need to go back to, ‘who do I need to become?’ I need to be a person whose capable, who is able, who is worthy.  I really love that distinction.  One of the key pieces that you said in there is, ‘success leaves clues’.  So find the people who already have the results that you want and go and study them.  Be with them, spend time with them.  May be start a podcast..

 

CHRIS:

Absolutely.

 

KEVIN:

.. where you get to interview awesome people like that.  That’s such a great idea.

 

CHRIS:

This is true, this is true, ha, ha.

 

KEVIN:

And one of the key things, you said, ‘success leaves clues’ so go and study from the experts.  You mentioned about prayer or meditation.  If you are interested in meditation, you haven’t done any then check out Episode No. 20, where we have Tom Cronin talking about how to do meditation successfully.  He’s is a world class expert on that.  And you also spoke heaps about gratitude just there and about how the power of gratitude, you can’t have fear and gratitude at the same time, so if you focus on gratitude then what you can bring into your life expands.  We have a great episode on Episode No. 25, where Marc Von Musser, a man that we both know talks about very passionately about…

 

CHRIS:

Hey, love Marc.

 

KEVIN:

…the area of gratitude as well.  So really fantastic in there.  So success leaves clues.  Keep your meditation happening.  Keep the gratitude going and checking on those goals every day.  Make sure you keep that goal inside somewhere where you can see it.  And Chris, you have achieved so much in your life, I mentioned in the start, you walked on fire, you have done the running with the bulls, and I would love to know from you, we have had the world’s No. 1 bucket list expert on the show and he helps people kind of design their life and get the things that they want, so I would love to hear from you what’s one thing that you would be most proud to accomplish from your bucket list or is there one thing that you still really want to do besides being on the ‘Good Morning, America’? ha, ha..

 

CHRIS:

Ha, ha, right, it’s there, right?  We put it on there and it has to happen now, right?  One of the things is, you know, I have very blessed you said, lots of “success”, lots of great things have happened for me, [0:26:56] accolades, honors etc.  One of my proudest things is literally and anybody that knows me, knows that I am a dad first.  And the impact that I am leaving on my sons is so critical. and the fact that I have sons and of course a baby girl will be awesome, but a man raising a man means so much to me and so I guess the biggest thing that I wanna do is to be the best dad on the planet for them, you know, if you are familiar with Robbins’ work out there, of course, we have this whole thing about a triad and my triad, my father triad is Mr. Incredible and that’s who I become.  Like that’s who I become for them.  So steadily working on that Mr. Incredible, that’s kind of my perpetual bucket list item because I’ll never complete it, but it will always be a work in progress and of course I guess on the flip side of that, one thing that I really would love to have bucket list wise is, I want like a huge syndicated TV show, I have always wanted to do that, so not only be on ‘Good Morning, America’, but have my own as well, ha, ha!

 

KEVIN:

There you go, love it, you [0:28:02] so he’s gonna have his own TV show and be on ‘Good Morning, America’.  So really fantastic, Chris.  We really appreciate your time, your energy and of course before you run, I’ve got two final questions for you.  I mean after the audience have read ‘Achieve Your Dreams’ and ‘Get Shit Done’ which are the bestselling books by yourself, if there was one book that you would recommend for our listeners to read, what would it be?

 

CHRIS:

Hm, oh, there are so many, but one that pops in my mind is ‘As a Man Thinketh’ by James Allen.  That was such a great and pivotal book for me.  Of course it’s based on kind of biblical principle, but it really invokes the power of our mind right and how we think about situations and how we think about ourselves and ultimately how we think is ultimately going to determine how we show up, how we succeed, how we fail, all of that stuff is related to this amazing computer right above our eyebrows that God was so amazing to give us, but didn’t necessarily give us the instruction manual for it.  Ha, ha.  So I think that ‘As a Man Thinketh’, I think was a great, great book and I would definitely recommend individuals read that so that they can kind of just understand the power of our minds and how it literally is the central point for everything that we do in every aspect of our lives.

 

KEVIN:

Great recommendation and actually a very short book to read through..

 

CHRIS:

Right.

 

KEVIN:

.. and I think you can probably even get it for free..

 

CHRIS:

You can.

 

KEVIN:

.. it’s been around for that long, it’s a classic so …

 

CHRIS:

Yes, it’s like 1903 or something.  It’s been around for a while, yeah.

 

KEVIN:

Check out the page notes on kevinbees.com/podcasts and you will be able to see where you can get hold of that book and access that book.  We will pop that up there for you and Chris, one final question for you.  You have been so great giving your time and energy on the show today.  If any of our listeners want to get in contact, attend some of your events, or come along and spend time with you, where do they go to find out about those?

 

CHRIS:

Sure, it’s very simple.  chriscooperlive.com.  chriscooperlive.com is my website.  Also it’s my social media handle, so if you wanna find me on twitter or Instagram or facebook, just look for chriscooperlive and you will find me because I’m pretty live at times, ha, ha,

 

KEVIN:

Ha, very live, you have been very live today.  You have been Mr. Incredible.  We really appreciate your time and your energy.  Thank you so much for being on the show today, Chris.

 

CHRIS:

Thank you for having me.  It’s been a pleasure.

 

Thanks so much for listening to the life-changing questions podcast with your host, Kevin Bees.  We’ll catch you next time.

 

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