Episode (38) Allan Pease – How To Discover What You Want From You Want From Life Then Make It Happen
Allan – with co-author Barbara Pease – is one of the world’s most successful non-fiction authors, writing 18 bestsellers including 10 number 1 bestsellers such as The Definitive Book of Body Language and Why Men Don’t Listen and Women Can’t Read Maps. His books have been translated into 54 languages and have sold over 27,000,000 legal copies. His television series and #1 Box Office Movie were watched by over 100 million viewers.
On todays show,
Allan Pease Shares his ‘Life Changing Question’. A question that has led him to present in over 70 countries, sell over 27 million books, and have his TV series viewed by 100 million people globally.Allan Pease is Sharing His Life Changing Question. You can listen here Click To Tweet Want to form a new Habit? Allan Pease is explaining HOW Click To Tweet
Allan also covers
- If you have a ‘JOB’ you’re set up to be ‘Just Over Broke’
- You can make a career and living doing what you love. If you have to do something you don’t love every day – GET OUT OF IT!
- His life changing questions: ‘What is the thing that you love doing so much, you would do it for free, and you could get paid for it?’
- The answer to this, is where greatness lives.
- Decide and the answers will appear.
- If you’re attracted to something, follow it.
- Decide WHAT you want to do, WHAT you want to have and WHAT you want to become, make a concrete decision and the HOW will follow.
- Why to NOT to listen to the advise of family and friends when you’re clear on WHAT you want.
- Why hand writing your goals is more powerful than writing your goals electronically.
- The power of the ‘Reticular Activation System’ (RAS) to help you find your HOW.
- How Allan’s ‘RAS’ led him to be one of the first Westerner’s in The Soviet Union, and working with Vladimir Putin in the Kremlin.
- How to create a positive HABIT using the idea of DISPLACEMENT.
- Make a decision on how you want to be.
- Repeat POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS, over, and over and over.
- Your brain doesn’t know the difference between reality and the positive affirmations you tell yourself.
- How Allan overcame advanced prostate cancer – and beat the odds of 3% survival rate by DECIDING he would, and then studying those who survived, and replicating what they did.
- Our decision on living or dying can cause us to live or die.
- 6th & 7th May – VIP WEEKEND WITH ALLAN.
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On today’s show we actually have someone who is not asking questions, but somebody who has a book called ‘The Answer’, how to discover what you want from life then make it happen. Listen carefully today to the life-changing questions he asks to discover the answer.
If just one question could immediately transform the quality of your life or the results of your business, would you want to know what that question was? Life and business strategist, Kevin Bees, interviews success masters to discover their life-changing questions. Welcome to the Life-Changing Questions podcast.
On the show today we have Allan Pease. Allan is one of the world’s most successful nonfiction authors having written 18 bestsellers including 10 No.1 bestsellers such as ‘The Definitive Book of Body Language’ and ‘Why Men Don’t Listen And Women Can’t Read Maps’. His books have been translated into 54 languages and have sold over 27 million legal copies. His television series and No.1 Box Office movie were watched by over 100 million viewers. So I’m extra excited to welcome to the show today, the Professor Allan Pease. And so wow, what a fantastic Bio, I mean, there can’t be many people in the world who have the ability to say that they have sold 27 million books and had over a 100 million viewers view their TV series in the box office preview, so Allan I’m so excited to welcome you to the show today.
[0:01:25] No wonder I am so tired Kevin. In fact, Barbara said to me last night, ‘Do you wanna come upstairs and make love. I said “I can’t do both” ha ha.’
That’s absolutely fantastic. Yeah, no wonder you are tired. Your feet clearly didn’t stop. I have recently been reading your book ‘The Answer’, how to discover what you want from life and how to make it happen, and Allan, I guess I’m super impressed to think of all the stories that you shared in there about your life and what you managed to accomplish. I’d love to hear a little bit from you about your passion, I mean, how is it that you have been able to achieve so much across your career?
Well, passion is the key word there too, Kevin and most people go work and work a job and we define a job as ‘Just Over Broke’ , and they are not happy. In fact, we know that in Australia for example, this is generally true of most western European countries. In Australia specifically, there are 84% of people who hate what they’re doing for living, so they don’t look forward to Monday. They look forward to Friday. Then when they go to restaurants like ‘Thank God, it’s Friday!’ which demonstrates that they really don’t like what they are doing and most people are not aware or couldn’t get around the concept that it is possible to make a tremendous career and living at what you would love to do. This is the secret. Now the bottom line is very simply this Kevin, if you are NOT in a job that you love, if you’ve going to work which is something that you don’t really like to fill in the time, the bottom line is ‘Get Out’. Get out of that. Stop wasting your time, stop wasting your boss’s time because the boss is not getting good value out of you because you don’t like going there. So, now it doesn’t mean you go and quit tomorrow or even in 6 months, but it means you’ve got to answer this following question. This is the question I have been able to answer for most of my life, Kevin.
‘What are the things or the thing in your past life that you’d love doing so much that you’d do it for free?’
Or ‘one thing or things that you love so much that you would look forward to getting out of bed any day of the week and you’d wanna go and do it and if you didn’t get paid, you’d do it for free’?.
Now everybody’s got at least one or two or maybe 3 of those things. If you can identify what those things are, that is where greatness lies. If you want to become great, everybody who is great is great because they’re living their passion, the thing that they would do for free and probably did do for free in the past if they had to, and that’s what I did. To answer your question up, I do what I like to do. At school, I’d just stand up and crack jokes and I remember what my Maths teacher said ‘Allan, you should grow up to be a professional smartass, that’s what you should really do.’ I remember when he made that comment, I said ’You know what a smartass is, Mr. McLain? That’s anybody that could sit on an ice-cream, and tell you what flavour it is.’ And the whole of the class fell apart and I love to do that and I was always getting sent to the headmaster for being a professional smartass and some of those teachers who didn’t like it have come to my seminars and paid $100 to sit in the front row to hear me be a professional smartass. You don’t say, but as somebody said to me recently, ‘I like cooking and having dinner parties, how do I make a living out of that?’ So did Marcus Stewart. You know, ‘I really love talking all the time’, somebody said the other day – well so did Oprah Winfrey. I was with Geoff Fennick last week at the sydney venue with Arnold Schwarzenigger and I said to Geoff – ‘what did you love doing when you were young? ‘ and he siad ‘I liked being in fights and winning fights’. You might say – ‘how the hell do you make a living out of that?’ Well the guy us a very wealthy guy and a three time world boxing champion, now that’s okay. Let’s be fair here, Kevin, that I’m talking here about extreme people, Oprah and a world boxing champions and so on. But for everyone of those Kevin, there would be tens and thousands of people are in the field of sports, in the field of home enjoyment, home arrangement, in the field of talking and media who make tremendous livings, make lots of money and they are doing what they want to do, they are looking forward to getting out a bit to go and do it, and here’s the point as I said back, I’ll summarize this, if you are not in something that you are excited to get out of bed, and then get out of that thing. Get out. That’s the best advice I’ll ever give you. Don’t quit tomorrow or next week, may be even a year because you’ve got to pay your mortgage and send your kids to school if you’ve got them but plan to be out of that and get in to what you love to do. The minute you decide that you will live your life with your passion, the answers will appear until then you just keep working your job.
Absolutely fantastic summary there! And Allan, I know one of quotes that stuck out for me when I read the book is you wrote ‘What you’re passionate about is not random.’ So if there is someone who is stuck in a job, something that they are not enjoying, how can they really find their passion? How are they gonna know notice what is that they should be doing instead?
Well, all of us are attracted to something, whether it’s a standing up speaking, which I was, and whether its talking or running dinner parties or in the case of boxing champions belting people up, for some that doesn’t sound like a worth while thing, but for some it is. Whatever it is that you find you are attracted to, you like watching TV, things that capture your attention that you do lots and lots of and go with those, you can make a career and a living out of that. And I remember a guy said to me recently ‘I really love watching television’. And he knew all the TV series and he knew all the actors coming up. And he said ‘that’s what I really love to do’. So, why not become a television critic. And some of these in America and Europe, they make hundreds of thousands of dollars as a TV critic. So whatever it is you want that you are attracted to, this is the key, if you are attracted to and it draws you like a magnet, that’s the area you should be chasing because that’s where your interest and your likely passion lies.
Yeah, love it and Allan, your passion is taking you all over the world and I understand 70 plus different countries that you have spoken in and one thing from the book that really amused me, of course, was you spent a lot of time in Russia and of course even to do that back in the 90s, you actually had to hire yourself a team of KGB security guards to do that. So, I’d love for you to tell us a little bit about your travel, it sounds like its taken you to some interesting countries, interesting places.
Well, it has and the story I have talked about Russia, which is a story that Barbara and I live all the time. The whole point of the book ‘The Answer’ that you’ve been reading, as you would have seen is what most people don’t do, but if you get this and you understand this, your life will change instantly. Most people think about ‘how they’d do something’ like ‘I’d love to be a millionaire’ or ‘I would love to be the chief executive’, I’ would like to work medicines on frontiers and save kids in Africa’, I’’d like to be, whatever it is you wanna be’, but they say, ‘I don’t know how to do it, I can’t think of how I will do that?’ How they get a beautiful house on the beach or a porsche or what ever is important to them and because they can’t think of how they do it, they let the goal go, they just forget itbecause they cant think of how. Now here’s the important thing that came out of ‘The Answer’, the thing that really as you would have read the book yourself would have hit you between the eyes, if you don’t think about how you’re going to do something, you refuse to think about how you’re gonna do something, once you put it aside is, WHAT you are going to do? WHAT do I want to do to have, become, achieve the ‘what’? If you can identify that ‘what’, that’s what I want to do. Now once you’ve identified it, you put it in concrete. Concrete means, I’m going to do this despite what anybody says, thinks, or does, despite circumstance, despite everything, this is what I want to do. I will do this. Now friends and neighbours and others say ‘how can you do that, Kevin?’ Well, your answer is, you don’t really know at this point because if you knew, you’d probably be doing it, but you don’t know. The how doesn’t matter? The moment you just saw the what, your brain starts to search for the answers and that’s what you see the answers to how to do it. It’s a bit like whatever car you drive and whatever car that is minute you decide to get that car and drive it, every second car in the traffic is your car. You see your car on television, in the movies, you see it in magazines, newspapers, you see your car everywhere. You swear everybody’s got your car. The only reason they see it is because it became a clearly defined specific ‘what’. It’s the goal that you decided you wanted and once you decide that, you will see it everywhere. And this is the secret. You don’t have to think about the ‘how’, the ‘how’ will appear. Now one of my ‘how’s’ in the early stage, Barbara and I together, we decided we’re gonna go and get seminars in the Soviet Union, which it was at the time and I remember well-intentioned friends and relatives, the people will try and stop you from doing these things and people will try and stop you [0:09:19] relations, they are the worst. ‘You want to go to Ethopia and save the homeless children? What do you want to do that Susan?’ This is straight from one of my cliens, because over there you get mugged, raped, stolen, [0:09:31] you get blah, blah, blah. Those things are more likely to happen certainly there than in a safer place like Australia. If you listen to all of that, she used to be working here in the bank in Australia which is a nice, secure job, which paid her rent, but instead the techniques we gave her on how you get around that and sticking with the WHAT, she’s now in Ethopia and saving kids from war torn areas and she loves this. She said to me that this is the most fulfilling thing in her entire life because she stuck with it. Once you decide the ‘what’, you’ll see the answer. Now Barb and I decided we were going to present in Russia, and bottom line of this is a well-intentioned friend said, ‘How are you gonna do that?’ ‘Its behind the iron curtain’
Russia which was true at the time. People go in there _____ they get their kidney stolen and you never see them again and like, they put plutonium in your sushi and the KGB and well, that’s probably true [0:10:20] and I was inspired ____ movies I saw ___ with James Bond back in the 60s and I thought that would be exciting. We said, ‘Look, we are going to do this. We don’t know how. ____ when we get there ____ we will find a famous person and become their consultant [0:10:34] into the Soviet Union.’ But it was an impossible role at that time because the Soviet Union __ the iron curtain was closed. But the moment we wrote that goal down and writing it down is another important point to receiving the answer. When you ___ computer or Smartphone, you aren’t using ____ eye connections of the brain, so you have no emotional involvement. When you hand write the same thing, you have grabbed the 10,000 connections that can be alive in the brain, so you’re becoming emotionally involved with your goals when you hand write. Sure, put them in your Smartphone and put them in your computer, but hand write them in the first instance. That gets you involved in it. So [0:11:07] go to Russia and the moment we wrote it down, we saw ____ stories _____ communism and about Gorbachev and all the things were happening. Every time I turn the TV, here’s the story about Soviet Union. That’s how it worked. Because we decided to _____ and put it in concrete and put it in writing, we started to see the answers. [0:11:28] function there would have been may be 200 people in the room. Everybody is talking and is busy playing ____. Your brain will only seek out in that sort of circumstance, the things that are absolutely relevant to you and your objectives. [0:11:40] ____ because you know, my goal is to be Kevin Bees. _____ Barbara and I ___ and she heard a Russian accent _____ of all that crowd her brain detected a Russian accent because we have been listening to it and we had become experts in picking out Russian accents and so she [0:12:04] we find ___ who is coming down to Australia and who thinks that communism is gonna collapse and Gorbachev’s gonna open up the society and he wants new ideas to take to the new Russia. Now we had been practising the seminar in our minds, Kevin for a long, long time. We gave him the biggest [0:12:17] he’s ever seen. He went for it in a big way and we toured to Russia. We were the first westerners to enter Russia 6 weeks after communism ended and we decided to run seminars on how to appear on television ___ Russian politicians ____ that’s the way to go because _____ we can really find, let’s get the most famous person which is on our list ____ was Boris Yeltsin and we tried to get [0:12:40] with Boris Yeltsin and it just didn’t work ___ but we still decided to find a famous person and to know his cousin ____ this guy, who is the new mayor of St. Petersburg who was a bit of a progressive who liked the idea of training people, who liked the idea of bringing western ideas into Russia. And he’s the new mayor. Maybe he’ll be interested in this, so we put ____ so we went to the Kremlin, we turned up and he said, I can’t make ____ my deputy ____ his deputy was Vladimir Putin. Vladimir Putin’s first job in Russia after the KGB was deputy mayor _____ so we put on a seminar that day ____ politicians. Now here’s the point. If that hadn’t been written down at the time when it was an impossible goal ____ hadn’t been written down, we wouldn’t have the seen the programs about the Soviet Union, we wouldn’t have been able to identify Russian accents, we wouldn’t have met ____ somebody else and we wouldn’t have toured Russia and we wouldn’t be standing with Vladimir Putin at the Kremlin in Russia. And since that day in 1991, Barbara and I spend 3 months of the year in Russia and the Ukraine and the Russian-speaking [0:13:43] so on. That all came from writing it down when it was an impossible goal and people said would never work. So the bottom line of this and that’s the bottom line of ‘The Answer’, Kevin, as you [0:13:52] reading it, ____ business if you start finding yourself thinking about I have what ____, it’s just gotta stop because the goal is in danger ____ a concrete walk, this is what I will do. How’re you gonna do it, Kevin? I don’t know, but this is what I will do. And the answers will appear. And that becomes pretty technical. Just write it ___ what you’re gonna do, put a deadline ____ trigger on the gun makes it all go forward and ____ anybody says, thinks, or does.
So really important then, Allan to get really clear on the ‘what you want’ and then of course, the ‘how its gonna show up’, you gonna find how to do it afterwards. It’s none of your business, just take care of what you want to do and the important point you made there is about not just getting clear on what you want, but writing it down because that connects ten thousands connections in your brain, it’s getting you emotionally engaged for this. Now Allan, one of the key things I like to ask the interviewees on this show is around habits and rituals. What are the habits and rituals that they have had to create the results that they have? Although for you, I know you wrote in the book about how you formed a habit and a ritual, so I wondered if you could tell us a little bit about how you form a habit and what are some of the key habits you had over the years in order to create the success that you have?
Well, the thing about habits. Habits are repetitive forms of behaviour, things that we do over and over again, which makes life easy because you don’t have to think about making a decision, like one of the habits that you might have is, putting up your make up in the morning or having ___ or getting yourself dressed. You don’t have to make a conscious decision about every movement you’ve made of having ___ or putting on your make up or getting dressed. It’ll be there all morning trying to get out of the place. So because it has become a habit, we just do, we don’t think about it, but we can think about other things. Now, many of the habits that people have, we pick them up by default, by accident, and probably from past experience and a lot of them are not positive in terms of driving as to where we might want to go and getting [0:15:37] so the key is, use what’s called ‘displacement’. First as you ____ identify what is the habit you’ve got that is detrimental; whatever habits are there you need for success. There’s lots of habits, setting goals, being on time, ____ you take it and make it a habits. Identify your negative habit then replace it with a positive habit, that is, __ take one at a time, don’t do more together. So always being late, for example, is a negative habit you have got. You make a decision that you will always be on time and you develop affirmations around that, you know, I’m always on time, I have people respect me, love me because I always turn up on time and ___ I turn up ahead of time. People are impressed with me, people like what I do, people give me business, people are happy being my friend. So you make positive affirmations around being on time. And you repeat it over and over and over. Now the thing about your brain, you mentioned before about the ____ and the _____ is the basis of ‘The Answer’, the book. It’s a little bit of ____ the size of a walnut, it’s between ___ back of your brain and the top of the brainstem, that filters infinite information other than smell than comes for your life and it filters to your brain and gets you to do what it says and the good thing of that it doesn’t know the difference between reality or fantasy. It doesn’t know whether you’re actually listening to me talking on this podcast or you’re actually dreaming it, you don’t know. The thing ___ and it is real, but maybe it’s not maybe you are just asleep and you are thinking you are in this. So it doesn’t know the difference between reality and fantasy and this is the key. We are poking in the positive images, the positive affirmations through the ____ that you want, because it doesn’t know the difference, it will drive you forward to what you want to do and where you wanna go and what you wanna get and who you wanna become. So you write out a positive affirmation [0:17:11] on time. You make them in the present. Not I will be on time. I am on time. I am good at time organization. I’m good at planning. And you just repeat it over and over and over. Within about 30 days, [0:17:23] 30 days, your brain believes it and you become it, you start turning up on time, and you have replaced the old habit. We call this displacement. It’s like getting a bucket of water, it’s all your negative habits, and you throw a rock in and that rock is your new positive one and after than you throw 70 rocks in and the water’s all gone out of the bucket, all you have got is a bucket full of rocks with your positive habits, but the key starts with identifying what are the negative ones and they include things like not turning up on time, eating junk foods, smoking, drinking, criticizing other people for what they do, sitting [0:17:51] ____ think about everybody can think of negative habits that don’t help them, but the good news is, you can intentionally replace them by using that little bit of hardware between your brain, writing them in handwriting, writing in the present tense that you are a non-smoker, you are a great eater, you are now eating organic vegetarian food. May be up until now you were a McDonald’s freak or KFC freak, so you can reverse it intentionally and that’s the good news about this. It’s not an accident that where you go in the future is completely in your hands and the thing about it, it always was Kevin, but most people don’t realize that.
Yeah, and so what you’re saying then is we must displace any of those negative thoughts, negative habits and behaviours by making sure you tell yourself in both positive terms and present tense, I am always on time, I am a great sleeper, I am loved by people, and of course your brain begins to accept that because you are displacing these previous thoughts that you had. I love that. Allan, you mentioned that about habit, you certainly mentioned then about changing of the diet, I’m a vegetarian, I don’t drink or I’m free of alcohol. I know that’s something that you’ve done because along this journey [0:18:57] 100 million people that you have impacted for the TV show, I know you’ve had some challenges along the way. One of those challenges, of course, was that of cancer, so I wonder if you could tell us about what it takes to overcome those challenges on the way, overcome those obstacles?
Sure, the first thing about cancer is [0:19:15] a cancer counsellor. I counselled people, mostly men on prostate cancer ____ other areas of cancer because people get ____ when you have got a reputation being somebody who has successfully ____. And when I got diagnosed, I was 47 with advanced prostate cancer which is [0:19:29] get it and I had a diagnosis of maybe 3 years I might live, the first year or two that should be okay, last year, they said, you _____ and I remember talking to a specialist about this moment. The topmost specialist in Australia ___ every operation, I have talked to 19 doctors at that time. They all agreed this guy is ___ pretty soon. By the way, ___ the doctors are dead. I remember this specialist. [0:19:57] give me the statistics __ work with that. ___ 100 men your age, with your cancer, ____ we expect that about 21% would succumb in the next year, which means they’re gonna die, about another 30% to 40% in the second year would succumb and most of the balance would succumb within the third or fourth year at the best. And I said to this guy, ‘Does anybody live? Does anybody survive this?’ He said, ___ 3% men will come to the other side and live to be 80 and get run down by a bus or have heart attack. Well, I said to this ___ good, I’ll take the 3% group place. I remember he looked at me, Kevin and he looked at me like you would look at a monkey in the zoo, he looked very quizzically. And I said, ‘I will have the 3% group. What do I need to do, doctor, to get into the 3% group?’ And then it was quiet [0:20:46] he said, ‘You don’t choose your group, Allan’. And I said, ‘Why not?’ He said, ‘That’s just a statistic of a 100 men ____ condition, so that’s what we expect’. He said, ‘You don’t choose your group. That’s just purely a statistical average.’ And I said, ‘Yep. Somebody’s got to be in the 3% group, right?’ He said, ‘Well, yes, 3%, but somebody has to be there.’ So obviously if they are all the same people with the same ___ same complaints, same condition, obviously the 3 in 100 were doing, thinking, or eating, they are doing something that the other 97% didn’t do. Now I come from a housing community background in Victoria when I was a kid. To me this was pretty straightforward. If there is 97 out of 100 people leaving 3 died, obviously these 3 must be doing something that the 97 weren’t doing. But I have found out that the medical ___ they didn’t even understand that concept. So I spent a year finding people who are in the 3% to find out what they were doing and they were doing certain things. They were eating organic food. They were avoiding stress _____. They were doing meditation. They were doing all the things that you have to do to give yourself the greatest chances of survival. It doesn’t mean if you do all those things ___ be in the 3%, but if you don’t do those things, you will definitely be in the 97%, was the point. So I did those things and when I meet people today who have been diagnosed with cancer, if anybody on this program who is listening has cancer [0:22:00] since you are diagnosed with cancer, everybody around here seems to have cancer, you see this everywhere ___ becoming a social group. This can be scary if it is not a very positive group, but if I meet somebody today who is diagnosed with cancer, I can tell you within about 5 minutes always what their chances are and you know what it has to do with, Kevin?
The way they think.
The way they think. How they see themselves. If somebody says, ‘Oh, we had the doctors tell me that I’m gonna live 12 months [0:22:27].’ They are negative about it. If enough people tell them that, that becomes their hand written goal, if you like, and the body will fulfil it, the body will take it up. I saw it the other week that in America, in the Jewish community, there’s one day where more Jewish men die that one day than any other day. You know when it is?
The day after Hanukkah celebration. They all wanna live to Hanukkah, so they just decide to live and the day after they go, ‘I did that and then I die.’
Like a pretty [0:22:55] they made a decision to live and to die the next day and consequently many of them did and so if somebody says, ‘Well, you know, things are tough and looking bad, I’m unhappy’, they start painting pictures in their mind, poking through their ____ death, dying, destruction, unhappy people and there’s a good chance that’s gonna happen. Now if you go the other ___ this would ___ if you are diagnosed with, not only with cancer, but any life-threatening illness, Kevin, you must make a decision. First thing, you must make a decision that you will live, that’s it. I made the decision, I’m gonna live. I’m going to be in the 3% ___ what anybody says. ___ statistics, research, I don’t care, I’m going to live. I’m will be in the 3%. End of story. Somebody said, if you are listening, what if you are wrong? Well, I bloody well did, then what sort of question is that? ___ decision to be in that 3% and the ___ had to do it and that was 19 years ago and here I am now and they still talk of 3 years __ that’s a statistical average and I’m not going to be in that 3%, I’m going to be in the longer percentage, I’m going to live to be at least 90 minimum, 90 is my___ that doesn’t mean I’ll die when I’m 90, but I will be in good, capable health until I’m 90 ____. I’m 66 now ___ to be 60 anything, like I probably wasn’t going to be 50 anything according to them. So what you think, your body will draw you toward the __ choose that goal. There are other people who said and did what I did, who died of cancer probably, but probably didn’t, but somebody has to be in the 3%. If you make a goal to do it, there’s a good chance you will be one of them, in anything or whatever; it’s not just cancer, but in anything.
I love that. So the doctors actually told you that you don’t get to choose your group, but your [0:24:28] messages actually you do, you make that decision. If you’re going to make a choice then in there I will live, I will achieve this, I will get this outcome, then you’re gonna find out how you’re gonna find a way to do that. Allan, it’s such a powerful and empowering story to share with. Once people have grabbed anyone of your books and you have a heap of fantastic books out here, ‘The Answer’ and they read your books, if there was just one other book you would recommend for them to read, what would be that book be?
I thought about this question, and I do read a lot of books. Most of what I read, most people wouldn’t enjoy _____ they are really technical books of sociology and biology and anthology. I read all the ‘ology’ books and everything that covers [0:25:08] for most people they wouldn’t be that interesting. If I had to recommend 3 books in your life ___ because I write these books, I am not biased, but I believe this because I have read just about everything. If you read ‘The Answer’ that will show you what to do and it will show you how you get what you get. Body language, you master it. ‘The Definitive Book Of Body Language’ shows you how to get on with people because all success in life _____ has got to do with people. If you can people to like you ___ good with you, you’re gonna be successful in business, in social, in life, it will be great. And the third is the differences between men and women, ‘Why Men Don’t Listen And Women Can’t Read Maps.’ The differences between men and women ____ because 50% of the population around you at one time came as opposite sex to you and most of those think you’re nuts, you need some sort of therapy, you’re crazy, and then you go and are married to them ____ oh, my God. ‘The Answer’, ‘The Definitive Book of Body Language’, and ‘Why Men Don’t Listen.’ If you understand those three, you would be the greatest person that ever lived.
There you go. You go ahead and listen to ‘The Answer’, get out of the body language and ‘Why Men Don’t Listen And Why Women Can’t Read Maps.’ [0:26:07] fantastic note for everyone listening on the call, if you want to know more about Allan and the great work that he and his wife Barbara do together then certainly you can jump on to his website, which is peaseinternational.com and Allan, I know this is an opportunity for people to come and work with you and be with you live, coming up in May, so I wonder if you would like to tell us a little bit more about the experience there?
Absolutely! Like this is a brand new thing that we’ve started here. We’ve never done this before. We did a test round about 6 months ago. We are boarding a maximum of 30 people to come to [0:26:42] resort in Queensland on 65 acres of land ___ the ocean and it’s full of ____ and kangaroos and just a relaxing place, we had a conference ___. So when boarding up to 30 people that come for a weekend so we can __ 9 to 5 both days and we are going to talk about all things we’ve been talking about here, about how to get what you want ___ become what you wanna __, how to relate to people, how to get on ___ with the opposite sex and you get them to say ‘yes’ and that’s gonna be on the 6th and 7th of May in [0:27:09] in Queensland and then we will do a second one on the 19th of august. First time we’ve done the test round last year was absolutely great. I have never done that before, in fact I was pretty nervous about the whole thing we did, because I have never been a small group conference organizer or a conference speaker; I have always been a big speaker for big audience, for 10 to 20 thousand people ____ group program with 25 to 30 people is different, but it was absolutely ____ because you get one-on-one time to talk with Barbara and I __________ talking about and they get some of the ____ to drive you where you wanna go.
Fantastic. So that’s the VIP weekend. You can find out about that on peaseinternational.com/events or just click on the show notes on the podcast. I have all the details for you to click through. Allan, it’s been an absolute pleasure speaking with you. I know we have only scratched the surface, there’s a heap more that you and I can discuss, but we really appreciated having your time and your energy today. So thank you so much.
My pleasure, Kevin.
In summary from today’s show then, the life-changing question is what one thing could you do that you love so much that you would do it for free, but you would also get paid for it. So what one thing could you do that you would love so much that you could do it for free and yet you also get paid for it. Once you get really clear on the answer of that, whatever it is, decide that that’s what you’re gonna do and then the ‘how’ will follow. Thank you for listening to today’s show and have a fantastic weekend. Make sure you keep asking those life-changing questions.
Thanks so much for listening to the life-changing questions podcast with your host, Kevin Bees. We’ll catch you next time.
[0:28:43] Kevin, call me, said the doctor gave me 6 months to live, cancer. I said, ‘What happened?’ So after 6 months I couldn’t pay his bills, so he gave me another 6 months!