Episode (57) – How to develop leadership skills and be a great leader
Alexander Muto is a social entrepreneur, who builds businesses designed to increase the quality of others’ lives. He started at the age of 16, and over the last few years, he has managed to create opportunities for over 185 students to go through training and educational programs.
On today’s show,
Alexander talks about what makes a great leader and shares his advice on how to develop leadership skills.
Alexander also covers,
- How he went from being bullied in middle school to being the founder and CEO of Hawaii Leaders Core at the age of 16
- His 3 beliefs system: ‘I can do anything, I can be anything, I am perfect as I am’
- Leadership consists of 3 things: growing and investing in yourself; love; surrounding yourself with the people who want to make a difference
- A great leader has to be the man of people – he has to meet people where they are and bring them where they need to be
- Two stories on how he brought people that bullied him to being his best friends and co-workers
- His organization seeks for experts in social media marketing, legal advice, how to run a non-profit, developing internet presence, coaches, speakers, mentors and passionate youth
- His Life Changing Question is: How can I appreciate the beauty and love of this moment right now?
- He wants to create a movement in Hawaii that will be the place where next generation of leaders is created
- Live each moment as if it was your last, so when you get to that moment you can have a sense of gratefulness
- When you know your ‘why,’ you’re going to attract people who bring the ‘how’
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Welcome to Episode No. 57 of the Life-Changing Questions podcast. On today’s show, we have Alexander Muto. Alexander is a social entrepreneur, who builds businesses designed to increase the quality of others’ lives. Now, he has led a very remarkable journey. Over the last few years, he has managed to create opportunities for over 185 students to go through training and educational programs. In order to do that, he has raised $230,000 to make that happen. Now, what makes this super interesting for me is that Alex is actually a very young guy himself. Alex, how old are you, my friend?
So, currently I am 20, but when I started I was 16 and a sophomore in high school in the United States.
So welcome to the show, Alex. Sixteen years old and having such a major impact on the lives of other people, I mean, I couldn’t even finish the bio before sharing that. I would love to hear a little bit about your story. I wonder if you could tell us about, you know, how did you become the founder and CEO of Hawaii Leaders Core and how did you get started in that, in helping other people?
Well, it’s funny, [0:01:22] about the Global Youth Leadership Summit that was hosted by the Anthony Robbins Foundation and I was just surprised at the self development and the self change and the level of excellence that people of my own age were living to. Certainly some of the kids of my own age already had businesses or becoming financially independent and they had gotten over or they were confident in relationships, they were confident in being themselves and they could talk to about anybody and that’s what I personally wanted. When I was in middle school, I was really bullied a lot and very unsure of myself and I decided to go down this life-changing path. There was like this [0:01:58] in middle school that happened way before any others and I started pursuing this and then I could see the end game at these events. When I went to the leadership events I could see what it would be like if I pursued this quest or this life journey into the [0:02:13] conclusion or even like a few years in the future and I was shocked. So how I started was I came home. I said, “Mom, I want to bring my entire high school to this event. This is amazing. Everybody back home needs to see this because I got so much out of [0:02:29] leadership summit. I was able to breakthrough it and I wanted to be able to help people with this, but I knew at that time I didn’t have the skills and resources [0:02:37] training because I was just starting to be able to help people, so it was like, okay, instead of reinventing [0:02:43] let’s just send as many people to this event as possible and see what happens and now 5 years later, I do have the skills necessary to be able to teach people. I have been to multiple, multiple different events around the world, spoken in different countries, and now we are planning our own event here for the next summer for students from all over the world to be able to attend the leadership event, like I did first time 5 years ago and totally changed my life. Now we’re changing the lives of people right here, in our own backyard and it brings tears to my eyes and it’s amazing.
It is amazing and now tell us a little bit about your intent. I know you really wanted to bring the whole of your school along to this event, but where did the drive and the hunger come from to make you step up in and actually follow through on this?
So, the drive came from actually my middle school, where as I said I was bullied. I know what it felt like to live as a person that you let others to find yourselves. So the big thing for me, I believe that back in middle school is that I was flawed because I had ADHD and dyslexia, I would never amount to anything, so all my dreams would never come true and I couldn’t do anything about it; I couldn’t change who I was and I showed up every day as what people expected in me to be. I was the garbage can that was kicked around by everybody else and that was my identity and I embraced it as a means to try and connect with others. I was like, “Oh, I will be the bottom of the totem pole as long as I can have friends and stuff” and that worked within my friends, who were just kind of manipulating me. I remember at one point I got in argument over something with my entire class. Literally I was sitting at the front of the class, the teachers and all of the students were sitting around me because I had just been like combating these kids for like years and then after I got [0:04:29] argument with literally my entire class, [0:04:32] small classes like may be 25 students, I went out into the garden out in my school and literally just cried. That was in that moment that I decided, look, something’s gotta change and I decided ‘No, I can decide who I am. I can decide who I am gonna become’ and there was like a period of 5 minutes, where I like saw the end game. I saw what my life would be like if I embraced these 3 belief systems that, ‘I can do anything I want in my life; I can be anybody I want to be in my life.’ When I changed my belief systems and character in who I am and then I am perfect the way I am and I saw the end game and I also saw the end game if I didn’t change. I saw the violence, I saw the pain I would be suffering if I continued along the path and I made that change and so the drive was for me, as a path of self discovery to be able to, number one, fully overcome that which I have now, but to be able to help others do the same thing because I felt like I have this responsibility because I was able to breakthrough and I am one of the few people that because you can’t lead someone somewhere if you haven’t in yourself walked that path, so because I have walked this path, I have a responsibility to all my friends and all my classmates and all the years that I used to run cross-country with, run track and field with, [0:05:50] paddling with back home in my community and be able to lead them to do the same thing because this is not , you know, people’s lives that are at stake. Hawaii has a very high suicide rate and people are in the drugs and stuffs, so, you know, [0:06:07] or have a responsibility; that’s what kept me going, it’s the responsibility to go back and help others do the same.
And you said something very powerful then. Three beliefs – ‘I can do anything, I can be anything and I am perfect as I am’. Three very important beliefs for us to take on. And it sounds like you made a decision in that moment there and I heard the word ‘leadership’ come up. So you decided to be a leader and take on that responsibility and decide who you wanted to be to show up in the way that you wanted to be and now you take that as a responsibility to lead others. Tell me, what is leadership for you?
So, leadership for me is – that’s a hard question, ha.. There’s many different definitions of leadership, but leadership for me is, number one, being able to recognize that you are perfect. That you have flaws inside yourself and it’s not societies fault, it’s nobody’s fault. And instead of seeing it as faults or something, see it as a challenge and embrace it, overcome and have the courage to be able to take on a hard look at yourself and also love. It’s also getting to the emotional point where you can love everybody around you regardless of what they do to you and how they treat you and always recognizing that they are a human being and they deserve the very best because sometimes when we come from our place of hatred or a place of judgement, we can overlook the beauty that’s in others and it’s also surrounding yourself with the greatest, most highly trained, you know, people with the best character trait possible, to achieve your goals and dreams because I have studied a lot of the greatest leaders throughout history; I am also a historian and I love [0:07:51] history, I find it absolutely fascinating and FDR, Winston Churchill and even some of the Roman Caesars back in the day, way back in the roman times, the most successful people, who were able to make the greatest change, even like Martin Luther King or Gandhi or Nelson Mandela, it wasn’t just them. It was their staff. It was their cabinet. It was the people they chose to surround themselves with, that really made a difference. So number one, it’s you looking at yourself, being able to, take a hard look at yourself, and to be able to grow yourself and invest in yourself and invest the time, energy, expertise to be able to make yourself more valuable and develop your character strength and that can be through school, it can be through going to the leadership event, it can be learning a new skill. Number two, it’s love. So, it’s coming from a place of love and every interaction you have and it can be stern, it can be harsh, but just remembering that every human being on the planet is doing the best job they can, the way they can and really connecting with that part of them and speaking to that, regardless of whatever they may be slurring at you and it’s also the people you surround yourself with. So, in the way leaders go, we created positive, opening, loving environment. When I started out, it was just me and my mom and now it’s grown to, you know, 40 active students, 80 you know, like alumni, total 80, so may be like 40 alumni, that kind of hang out community and then hundreds and hundreds of parents and tonnes of people around the world that are absolutely inspiring. I had [0:09:24] the other day, Heather Miller; she is from Australia and she graduated from Uni and then she got hired by the school to teach leadership courses and now she’s wanting to do her own thing. She got hired as a professor, literally 2 seconds after she graduated. They approached her and said, “Hey, do you know want to teach a class of leadership?” and she’s like, “Okay.” And that’s the kind of people I want to surround myself with, the people who want to make a difference and come from a place of love and [0:09:50] actively pursuing it.
What a great definition of leadership in there and I love the whole message about who you surround yourself around and even if you don’t necessarily have a great group of people to surround yourself with [0:10:02] you can certainly surround yourself with these books, you know, you said the Churchill, the Gandhi, and all those leaders in the past, who have been great leaders and you can learn from them. They have left their legacy in that book, so you can understand their traits and embody those yourself. And I really love the point that you made about love. [0:10:18] is about love because if we recognize that everyone that we are working with, everyone that we are around, is doing the best that they can, with the resources they have available to themselves, then we are probably gonna have a very different approach than if they are struggling with something, if they are not necessarily coming across to you in a way that’s great, remember that they are doing the best they can, with the resources they have, and then of course we can help them. Now you mentioned that you love working with someone like Heather, who comes across and she gets involved in that leadership and she wants to give and she wants to make a difference, tell us about some of the impacts that you have. You said you got 40 active students, 80 alumni, hundreds of parents. Can you give us an example of may be a person you work with or the group you work with where they just transformed and now they are on a different path from what they would have been?
Absolutely. I have literally all my best friends. Lot of kids that used to actually bully me are actually now working for me. So it’s kind of hilarious, just the total flip, but there’s also one thing that I wanna add to my definition of leadership, it’s to be man of the people. Go out and get yourself dirty and meet the people where they are at. Go out to [0:11:21] come from a place of love and then bring them where they need to be in that ties them to what I did with one of… And don’t be [0:11:29] don’t be like out somewhere [0:11:31] dirty. Go to their parties, be in with the people, meet them where they are and this happened with one of my friends, who used to bully me, Danny [0:11:39] I would consider him my brother from another mother. I met him in high school and we used to get in fights. There was actually one, where we had a basketball camp that my mother had been running this or before, you know, when we started to figure out what we were doing very, very beginning, before we even sent, no we sent one student, but this was before the big [0:12:00] trip that really sparked everything off. We were at a basketball camp and I had been following everybody because that’s what that coach wanted me to do and I was very aggressive because I wanted to like win and that’s just where I was at that time and so Danny was very role driven and he’s like, “No, you can’t do this, you can’t do this” and he was in a very tough place in his life. He’s actually given lectures and TED talk on this, but the thing is like he started out with, he was raised by a single mother, he was sexually abused, his mother was [0:12:31] of 9/11 and had PTSD and living with a autistic brother like who got violent some times and so, he was not in the best part of his life and he was very, you know, poor. They were living [0:12:42] welfare and stuff like that and so I didn’t know any of that at the time [0:12:48] you know, because we weren’t that close, so he [0:12:50] “Hey, what’re you doing?” We are on the side line and we were about to get in this fist fight and he’s just really mad at me and he’s a big guy; he’s bigger than me [laughs] yeah, it was a little bit of the intimidation factor and I could be totally like come from like just, ‘Hey, you weren’t even born here; you are from somewhere else; how dare you judge me! No, I grew up here [0:13:12] I decided in that moment when we were about to get in [0:13:16] I was like, “Hey, do you wanna come to this leadership conference with me?” And he’s literally about to like lay me flat, like just deck me. He said, “What?” I said, “Yeah, we’re going to this leadership conference in San Diego in like 2 months. You wanna come?” And he was like, [0:13:30] I was like, “Yeah, to San Diego? You can totally come for free.” It was like no charge or raising money for like students to be able to fly around [0:13:38] and it totally derails the conversation. He comes for the leadership conference, gets to see, you know, this master school [0:13:46] San Diego that’s like literally the bigger than my home town, which was hilarious. But anyways, it was like the giant science fiction [0:13:55] because we were from such a small town, but he, over the past 5 years, he got over all of that and [0:14:00] he stopped getting up money to be able to attend his school and using the leadership skills that he got, he was not only be able to get his family off the streets back into another house, start making money, raising up money to finish high school, he just graduated this year, but to be able to follow his dream of becoming a speaker and now he’s going to college. He’s got a full ride, pretty much a full ride to an amazing school on the big island because of these leadership programs we have been giving him and a lot of our students actually got full rides to universities across Hawaii and the world because of the opportunities that we have been able to hook them up with and [0:14:42] we have these mentoring programs and for him it was speaking and I started to get into [0:14:48] public speaking, he would follow right after me and so I was able to mentor him and you know, every time I was working with the speaking coach, he would be right there sitting beside me and every time we went to his school and talk, he would be talking with me. So now he sits in the admin team of my company. He sits right as my right hand man. Whenever we are doing a really big decision or we have a really big policy change or some like that what are we gonna do, he’s right there in my pocket and he gives phenomenal insight, his expertise is [0:15:17] poverty and he’s really mastered it, which is hilarious and he had every single challenge, you know, he was suicidal at the time and he got through all of it and broke through and now he’s up on stage teaching what he’s learned, thousands of other youth in Hawaii and that’s all because I came from a place of love originally and because he wanted to change. You can go up to thousands of individuals, but there’s a few individuals and this is why I love working with people who are down on their luck, it’s because they have the biggest will and the biggest drive to change and he’s in some areas, you know, he’s got far beyond I could even me and going beyond what I have been doing. You know, we just feed off each other and he worked from my bully to now my best friend and my brother and this is just one of the many stories [0:16:07] used to bully me, now she works in my company. Hundreds and hundreds of other students, same thing, they went from, I mean, a videographer Jacob [0:16:15] his parents thought of his dream of being a film maker was gay and they didn’t want him to do it. They wanted to do what his twin brother did. They wanted him to do martial arts and stuff, [0:16:26] Hawaii. I see this played a lot, parents because they have these visions of what a rich person is and how to pursue it and you need to follow this cookie cut of strategy, you know, you have to go to college and make money and they come back [0:16:38] you need to do this for the family, when in reality you can make a lot more money if you are [0:16:41] pursue what you have done and you know, he’s making videos for us and [0:16:46] $3000 of video editing, computer and he’s got hired by a world renowned, he’s like the number one surfing champion of the world, and he’s a video editor now [0:16:57] you can look him up, he’s working for him. He literally lives two houses down from me. It’s hilarious. But he’s editing the videos and he’s just pursuing his passions, what he loved doing. And I remember there was this time, we were sitting on the porch of his church at night and I asked him, because he was like, “I don’t think I can do this, I don’t know what I can do, I really wanna do this, but you know, my parents want something else and I don’t think I have the character strength to be able to do this” and I am like, look, and we were sitting on this dusty old porch that’s like a hundred years old. And I was like, “Look, you see this thing? Where are you sitting? You think this place has changed in over a hundred, two hundred years?” And he’s like, “No.” “So the building we’re sitting is old, just like you can be one of the aunties and uncles here who grow up, spend their entire life just doing the same thing, you know, sit on your porch and die [0:17:45] you know, 2 feet from where you were born. Or you can go and do something with your life. And both [0:17:51] are equally awesome, but it’s up to you, what you decide to do.” And I am happy to say he decided to pursue his own passions and he’s just been so much more happy. When I see him messing around with all these video editing equipment and these booms and mikes and I just feel the sense of love and pride, like he’s doing what he’s loving and it’s beautiful and I couldn’t be happier for him.
Wow, and Alexander, I really feel your energy and passion come through as you share those stories and what a great story it is. So to help someone turn from being the bully, you know, who was stuck in a situation in the poverty and now of course they are not only your best friend, but they are out, they are making a difference speaking with you and empowering other people; that sounds like it’s a real testament to what is it that you are doing and now I really and truly get why you are so passionate about bringing so many people to these courses and educating them and supporting. Now you did say something very important before around these great leaders, it wasn’t just about them; it was who they surrounded themselves with. And for you to achieve this vision that you have, to get more people to come and present and educate and support you in delivering this vision of your own course, your own program in Hawaii, you’re gonna need some good people around you. So what kind of resources do you need? We have a great community here listening in and people may be moved by your level of passion, your energy and what you want to do. If we have people listening and they want to support you in some way, tell us how could they do that?
So there are many ways you can support. Number one, if you look in more and join the dream and get involved and make a difference, not here, but internationally and around the world, we are looking for people, who are experts at like marketing in social media and just marketing a business. We are also looking for experts at running a non-profit. We are looking at expert’s legal advice, on how to write brands. We are looking at experts of how to pitch ideas to these investors. And we are also looking at our sponsors. We want year-long sponsors. We are happy to say we have annual sponsors and one of them is [0:19:49] Cardiology. They give, I don’t know, but anywhere between $10,000 to $20,000 a year. We have a couple of restaurants, local community members that do anywhere from $2500 a year to $10,000 a year supporting this dream and this passion to make it happen, so we are looking for sponsors and with that we can connect you with clients. We have a massive advertising base and we have a massive pool in our community, so if you come to us and you want more exposure and you just wanna give back, we’ll make sure to give back to your company so that you are successful as well with us and we’ll rise together. Social media marketing, legal advice, how to run a non-profit, developing internet presence, so experts in that and also coaches, speakers, mentors and youth. Youth who are passionate or youth who may be shy and timid, all of these people, we wanna bring them together and go directly out. You probably are gonna put a link [0:20:44] or something like that, yeah?
Hundred percent! Check out kevinbees.com/alexander and you will be able to see that there.
Awesome! Definitely perfect! And if you want, you can also email me directly at firstname.lastname@example.org or check out our website at hawaiileaderscore.com.
All of those information on kevinbees.com/alexander. You get in to see all of those. And I do hope that people listening, if you can support in some way, whether it’s with some of the advice or information or sponsorship or even if you are a coach, speaker or mentor and you can pitch in, then please do and that will be really great. Now, Alexander, of course, the level of passion and energy you are bringing into the show today is fantastic. And I wanna ask you around the idea of your questions because the quality of the questions that you ask yourself impact the quality of your life. So with that being true, what’s one question that you have asked that’s had the biggest possible impact on your life?
So, over the years ago, through many different questions and as Tony Robbins says, he says, primary questions and its absolutely incredibly important, as Kevin said to be able to know the questions you are asking yourself and also the business sense how I ask myself because the questions you get an answer [0:21:59] from the question you ask yourself and you know if you ask yourself why you are so bad and why you are such an evil person, you are gonna get an answer for that whereas if you ask yourself ‘How can I appreciate the love that surrounds me around my life?’ you are gonna get a completely different answer and one of the questions that I constantly remind myself and that I am working on creating because it makes me attractive to other individuals and makes people want to be around me, it helps me in the business sense and it helps me [0:22:25] relationship, in my school and that’s how, ‘How can I appreciate the beauty and love of this moment, even more right now?’ And again that question is, ‘How can I appreciate the beauty and love of this moment, even more right now?’ Because the only time you should be considered is right now. You know, you can have a plan for what’s coming up next. As we know that [0:22:48] works out 100% of the time anyways, so the most important thing is that you focus on the beauty that’s happening right now because a lot of times, people what I have noticed, you know, I go to university, I go to these schools, and what I notice is, a lot of my classmates, when you get caught up in exams or social movements, all the times people forget to stop and smell the roses around them. They get so caught up in these events and things that’s happening way over there, way over here, you know, college exams and mid terms and tests, they really forget to just appreciate, what do I have in my life right now that I could appreciate and when you do that, you become a thousand times more resourceful because instead of thinking ‘Whoa, you know what, I have to do this. I have to do this’, it’s like wait a second, I have college advisors, I have all my friends, I have my family, [0:23:41] my mom could, I did my term paper. Hmmmm… interesting. I bet I have a lot more resources and beauty and [0:23:49] that I have given my credit for, so definitely that’s the question that’s impacting me over the years and one of the ones in the past that I am gonna warn you about is, this was my primary question at the time, which caused only a tremendous amount of growth, but I plateaued with it and it was certainly really well at the time, but it was starting to bring me pain and insecurity and it was, ‘How can I do this right?’ And that was the question of the underdog, of someone coming in with all these powerful players because remember I was like 16/17 at the time and I am speaking and working along with 50- or 80-year-old multimillion, these ridiculously successful individuals as my peer group and I am looking up to them and now that I am getting older, I am not seeing them as a father any more, I am seeing them as an equal and it’s weird and it’s something to get used to being the young guy in a group of investors, people want companies, yeah, I want a company [0:24:49] that was the question that served me in the past, but didn’t really work in. So my question changed from ‘Am I doing this right? How can I do this right?’ which automatically assumes you are doing it wrong to ‘How can I appreciate the beauty and love in this moment right now?’ And that’s the question where I met my girlfriend, it’s the question why my company is growing so much right now, it’s the question that has provided me with financial excess, peace of mind and makes me the most resourceful I can be in any situation and I definitely recommend that question or any question that vibrates with you and that brings happiness to your life, to be able to do.
And a really great example and a great comparison because yeah, if you are always asking yourself ‘How can I do this right’ then you are presuming you are doing it wrong and if any moment ‘How can I appreciate the beauty and love of this moment, right now?’ I think the emphasis on the right now is so key, and the right now this week I am moving house, so I am surrounded by boxes and books and moving [0:25:55] is quite stressful, so I am pretty sure I am going to be asking this question over the next few days when I’m surrounded by books, is how can I appreciate the beauty and love of this moment right now and if you are listening, may be you think how can I apply this week when you are feeling may be if you are feeling stressed or frustrated or tired or little bit low resourced, may be check in and ask yourself this question and see what difference it makes because I guess what you focus on is what you are feeling. If you focus on the things that aren’t going great right now or things that are wrong right now, then that’s what you are gonna feel, but if you focus on what there is in the environment that you can appreciate then its gonna make a major difference to you. Now what I would also love to hear from you, Alexander, you are doing great things, I mean, at age 20, you are making such an impact on the world, you are having a successful and growing business, empowering other people in the way that you do, I would love to know, what’s on your bucket list? What’s something that you would still like to accomplish or would still like to work on or achieve or do?
You know, pretty much, I try not to have a bucket list as much as possible because if I wanna do something, I just go out and do it because your life can end at any moment. I remember last year, I got hit by a car. I was biking and literally right outside my house, I had my headphones in and I was listening to ‘Danger Zone’, totally not paying attention and when I turned and there was a car there with another student and it hit me and I flew over and there was this moment when I was sitting on the ground and I was, you know, in massive pain and I was like ‘Oh, my god, I am probably gonna die’ and I was like, you know, I’m okay with that. I have done everything up to this point that I would have been able to do and I [0:27:35] and fortunately it was just a bunch of scrapes and stuff and I was able to walk away from that, but I had a moment, I was like, I should be dead now, like I could totally be dead and the front end of my aluminium reinforced bike, my bicycle was crumpled in and if I hadn’t turned into the car at the last two seconds, my entire leg would have been shattered and crumpled and I probably would have not been able to walk for the rest of my life, but because I turned into it, like it was just my natural instinct because I grew up in the ocean and I just viewed it like a wave, completely relaxed and just turned into the car, I was like, I am gonna hit this car, just turn into it and I just let it take me and it ended up saving my life. I wasn’t even wearing helmet or shoes or anything. I was just wearing board shorts, a tee shirt and a big backpack that also saved my life because I landed on my backpack with all my school and my computer and everything, but definitely what’s on my bucket list is definitely to be with travelling world which I have been doing. I have been to multiple different countries, this company is taking me there. What was on my bucket list originally was just to change one person’s life and that would make my life meaningful and worth living and I have done that ridiculous amounts of times with every person I interact with, every day you can just change someone’s life with just a smile, so that’s on my bucket list and it’s to create a movement in a place in Hawaii that picks Hawaii into the next generation and the world to be part of this movement that’s happening everywhere else, I mean, we are working alongside youth organizations internationally, so we have an organization, we don’t own it, by the moments foundation in Australia and you should definitely, definitely check these guys up, I mean, if you guys are Aussies out there, go and support them because they are amazing, the Magic Moments Foundation, again on Kevin’s website; he’s probably gonna put may be a link to them, definitely go, check up Kevin’s website because it’s amazing. There are all these youth organizations and my end game would be to unite them all under one banner eventually, to kind of make the UN of sorts for these all programs so that one day, my dream is, we’ll have students exchanging internationally and attending all of these events, mostly already are doing, but under one system so that each country and each program and each foundation gives a unique identity absolutely. I am not saying I wanna go and conquer everybody, but what I am saying is that we [0:29:51] UN of sorts so that we can change all our members, freely, we openly share, advice and instead of competing, we work together, which we’re not competing [0:30:01] totally working together which is beautiful and this dream is, already I can see the seeds already starting to come into fruition and that’s my dream, to be able to create the next [0:30:11] forward for humanity, to be able to use these leadership skills [0:30:15] on a daily basis from a young age and eventually we are gonna working with like, elementary school kids and may be even kindergarten because we want kids to be able to be start growing up with these leadership skills from a very young age so that by the time they get to middle school, I don’t know what it is for you guys, but it’s like usually when you are like, between when you are like 13 and like 10, that’s the time for a lot of kids in the US, it’s like the period of judgement. That’s when you really come into your own because you are going through puberty and have all these hormonal stuff and everybody is just picking on everybody, so if we can get it before then and get them to come out of that empowered and feeling strong, that will change the world especially if we can get as many people as possible that come from a place of love and every [0:31:03] in the world will be a very different place and that’s what we wanna do. We wanna get people work [0:31:09] and create the next generation of leaders. That’s what my dream is on my bucket list.
That is a powerful bucket list item, to create the next group of leaders coming through. And Alex, do me one favor my friend, you have got such an important mission, so much passion and I know this is something you are gonna achieve, I completely believe in you and in what you are talking right now, just do me one favour, just next time you go out on your bicycle, please wear helmet, okay?
[0:31:32] well, my girlfriend [0:31:36] even have a bike anymore, well, I do but yeah, I am gonna wear a helmet, definitely next time. For all you kids out there, just look both ways before you cross the streets, I mean come on, like literally look both ways [0:31:55] and live each moment as if it’s your last because it will be one day, it will be your last and you know there’s nothing you can do about it, so definitely live each moment as if it was your last and so when you get to that moment and you are on your deathbed, you can have a sense of gratefulness that look I did everything I wanted to do in the time I had, that is one thing I want to be able to achieve.
You’ve heard it here, live every moment as if it’s your last, but look left and right so it isnt your last, okay?
Yeah, take precaution!
Take precaution. I absolutely love the passion and the energy. Such a powerful message there and such a powerful bucket list item. I have one final question for you and that’s if there was one book that you would recommend for our listeners to read, what would that book be?
Well, definitely and the book is ‘Man’s Search For Meaning’ by Viktor E. Frankl. He is right up there with FDR and all those other, Gandhi, Nelson Mandela in my opinion. He is THE inspiration for me, definitely. Check his book out because he talks about your ‘why’. Why you are doing something. Because what I found was a lot of individuals, it doesn’t matter how your goal is, it doesn’t matter what you’re doing because when you are faced with real hell fire and you only gain and your down on your luck and [0:33:13] it’s your ‘why’ that gets your through and this is the quote from the book that I think about, “A man who knows his ‘why’ can bear with almost any ‘how’” which was for him in the concentration camp. He would have these sessions with a lot of his other Jewish people and what he discovered is, when the people started smoking cigarettes using their currency and their money to [0:33:36] food, they buy cigarettes, that’s when they gave up and that’s when they entered the gas chambers, but it was the people who wanted to see their wife again, create that spaghetti restaurant that they always wanted to, or for him it was to rewrite his life work, which was this book, to restart his [0:33:52] therapy that he had just started before the Germans came knocking on his door and spent [0:33:57] that’s what keeps you going. It’s your ‘why’. Don’t worry about the ‘how’. The how’s important, but the thing is that you are gonna attract people too when you know your ‘why’. You are gonna attract people who bring the ‘how’, which is what I am asking for now. That’s happened with me. I didn’t know how to start a company and no matter, just start. [0:34:14] if you know everything because nobody knows anything when they start. If everybody knew everything when they first started out with something, everybody would be successful. The thing is, it’s the people who don’t know anything, admit that they don’t know everything, but have this amazing ‘why’ and amazing vision that they wanna achieve, so have the vision and have the ‘why’.
Very powerful book and such a great summary of it and if you do want to know more about that definitely read the book. Check out Episode No. 35 where we talk about the meaning of life, bring in the summary of the book as well around, it’s almost as if you heard the podcast and what a great coincidence. So Episode No. 35, check it out. We have some more details on Viktor E. Frankl and his book there and just by the way of recap today, I really want to spell out this awesome life changing questions being shared with us, ‘How can I appreciate the beauty and love of this moment right now?’ and if you are moved by the level of passion and energy that Alex has with him today then definitely make sure that you contact him, send him some love, some support in terms of helping him with achieving his vision in helping other people and you can do that by emailing email@example.com or check out hawaiileaderscore.com. All that information will be in the page notes on kevinbees.com/alexander and keep an eye for our episode next week. We actually have another amazing youth on the show, we have a 17-year-old lady who already has a successful business, is already inspiring people to change much in the way that Alex as well and that’s on Episode No. 58 and that’s with Gabrielle Jordan. So Alexander, thank you so much for your time and energy today. We really appreciate the level of passion and enthusiasm and I am so excited to see what happens with your vision over the next 5 to 10 years.
Thanks so much for listening to the life-changing questions podcast with your host, Kevin Bees. We’ll catch you next time.
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